Choosing the right nanny for your child is one of the most important decisions a parent can make. At Governess & Co., we understand how much trust it takes to leave your little one in someone else’s care. Once you’ve hired a nanny, it’s natural to wonder: is my child truly happy and thriving? The good news is that there are clear emotional, social, and developmental indicators that can help you determine whether your child is bonding well and flourishing under your nanny’s care.
Here are some key signs to look for:
1. Excitement When the Nanny Arrives
One of the clearest signs that your child is happy with their nanny is their reaction when the nanny arrives. If your child eagerly greets the nanny with smiles, hugs, or excitement, it’s a strong indicator of a positive bond. Children naturally gravitate toward people who make them feel safe, loved, and happy. At Governess & Co., we emphasize the importance of nannies forming strong, nurturing relationships with the children they care for, so seeing your child light up is always a good sign!
2. Smooth Goodbyes
Children often experience separation anxiety when their parents leave, but if your child consistently transitions smoothly into the nanny’s care, it shows trust and comfort. If your little one waves goodbye without tears or fuss and easily engages in an activity with the nanny, it suggests they feel secure and content. Of course, there may still be occasional emotional moments, but a calm and confident farewell speaks volumes about their relationship with the nanny.
3. Open Communication About Their Day
Even young children, in their own way, will communicate how their day went. Whether through words, gestures, or excited storytelling, if your child talks positively about what they did with their nanny, it’s a great sign. You might hear stories about a fun game they played, a book they read, or a special outing they went on. When your child willingly shares these moments with you, it shows they are engaged and enjoying their time. At Governess & Co., we encourage our nannies to provide stimulating and enriching activities that promote learning and development—something your child will likely want to share with you.
4. Emotional Security and Stability
A happy child is an emotionally secure child. If your child feels safe and confident around their nanny, they’re likely to display consistent behavior without sudden mood swings or outbursts. When a child is thriving emotionally, they are more resilient, adaptable, and generally content. Watch for signs of stability, such as the ability to calm down quickly with the nanny’s comfort, or seeking the nanny for reassurance when upset. This demonstrates trust and emotional connection, which are key indicators of happiness.
5. Developmental Progress
A great nanny not only provides care but also fosters your child’s development. Whether your child is learning new words, trying new activities, or showing improved social skills, their progress is a strong indicator of thriving under the nanny’s care. Governess & Co. nannies are trained to support children’s growth, focusing on cognitive, emotional, and physical development. If you notice your child hitting developmental milestones or developing new interests with the nanny’s guidance, it’s a clear sign they are in a positive, nurturing environment.
6. Healthy Attachment, Not Over-Dependence
Children who have a healthy relationship with their nanny will show a balance between attachment and independence. They will be happy to spend time with the nanny, but also feel comfortable exploring on their own or playing independently. A child who feels secure with their caregiver will not show excessive clinginess or distress when the nanny leaves. Instead, they’ll have a healthy balance, seeking out the nanny for support when needed but also displaying confidence in their own abilities.
7. Strong Social and Emotional Bonds
Another sign of a happy and well-cared-for child is the development of empathy and kindness toward others. A nanny who provides gentle, attentive care will model these behaviors, and children will often mimic them. If your child shows affection toward their nanny or demonstrates increased kindness toward siblings or peers, it could be a result of the nanny’s positive influence. At Governess & Co., we believe in the power of nurturing relationships, which foster not only personal happiness but also social and emotional development.
8. Eagerness to Share Experiences
When your child is eager to show you something they did with the nanny—whether it’s a drawing, a new dance move, or a toy they played with—it means they are proud of their experiences. This eagerness to share is a wonderful sign that they’re engaged in meaningful activities that make them feel accomplished and happy. At Governess & Co., we prioritize activities that are not only fun but also developmentally appropriate, so your child will always have something exciting to share!
9. Positive Nanny-Child Interaction
Observing your child and their nanny interact can provide valuable insights. Look for signs of warmth, laughter, and genuine connection. A good nanny will not only provide care but will also take the time to engage with your child on their level—whether that means playing pretend, reading stories, or simply having a conversation. When you see your child actively seeking out the nanny’s company and enjoying time together, it’s clear that they’re happy with the relationship.
At Governess & Co., we understand that the well-being and happiness of your child are your top priorities. By watching for these signs, you can feel confident that your child is bonding well with their nanny and thriving under their care. A happy child is a sign of a healthy, nurturing relationship, and that’s exactly what we strive to provide with every nanny we place.
If you ever have any concerns or just want to ensure your child’s continued happiness, don’t hesitate to communicate openly with your nanny or reach out to us at Governess & Co. We’re here to support you and your family every step of the way.